As important as it is to listen to one another, it is equally important to understand the difference between what is being said and what is being heard, this is a reality when speaking with and listening to someone cross-culturally. To be effective communicators, we must commit ourselves to the pursuit of cross-cultural competence. An absence of genuine relationships of transparency and trust between different groups of people can be a disaster. Even these naïve lines can be more harmful than what you think.
Your black friend will not likely want to hear: